***pardon the few curse words*** 

My wife attended a dinner get-together yesterday to celebrate the graduation of a relative with their 2 year degree this semester. I did not know but my FIL was going to be there also and this post is related to him.

My wife returned and mentioned that he had pulled her aside and said he was bothered by some of the material on my blog and wished I would not write about family matters in it. I laughed because the church and family are intertwinned and one. You cannot talk of one without the other subject coming up.

I was a bit confused as I could not remember anything that had IRL information in it..or mentioned them at all. I had almost allowed the blog to die as it did for me what it was supposed to do, and I have gone on to other things in life.

I dropped by the blog and did an inventory to see if I made a mistake and included IRL info and when. The closest thing is this comment from March 14th.

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My side of our families is totally inactive and proud of it, and my wife's side is mostly active. My family would "help each other bury a body if need be" while my wife's family's regular sunday evening eat is only for the ones who go to church....That's not me.

since my wifes family is split due to divorce this was about her mom's faction.

Then I simply said "#### IT" and posted this on my blog.

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I spent time as needed on this blog and it has done me a world of good. I have kept it mostly free of IRL(in-real-life) detail of many of certain family details. Now I get the word second hand that I need to quit mentioning them. Odd that I have gone back to March of last year in the archives and can find no IRL information at all of the ones who seem hurt/bothered/upset. If you have an issue on a specific post then address me and not send messages to me by courier. It is called a cellphone for a reason.

Her whole family is like this. When one fanatic BIL first found it he contacted a SIL to tell her I had mentioned her daughter(with permission from the daughter as I am polite) instead of coming to me with his TBM worries. SIL got mad and instead of coming to me told her mom(my MIL) who told me. The BIL and the SIL are so passive aggressive in their holier then thou anger. Now my FIL goes to my wife instead of addressing anything to me.

Well #### IT with a mighty roar. This from a family where not one single person has asked me why I do not attend, yet they read my blog and talk amongst(SIC) themselves.

It's like in church when a bishop calls you in and says "some people are bothered by something you've said/done" instead of that person saying it to you they run to others. This trained passive-aggressive attitude is for the worms.

I have a cellphone and untill they call me they can go take the metaphorical leap off a tall bridge for all I care.

Yeah, my family is like that. They won't come out and ask you anything, they'll just talk amongst themselves about it. Rumors abound. Truth is relative. Obviously I left the church when I started sleeping with a non-mormon and decided to be just like him so he'd like me more and marry me. According to them, of course.

beenthere:
Yeah, my family is like that. They won't come out and ask you anything, they'll just talk amongst themselves about it. Rumors abound. Truth is relative. Obviously I left the church when I started sleeping with a non-mormon and decided to be just like him so he'd like me more and marry me. According to them, of course.

 

I know what you are talking about!  Better yet, how about when the TBM's in the family are so out of touch with their insecurities and true feelings. (well learned and typical mormonesque traits) Much less missing any completely ordinary and reasonable logic.  They begin to overemphasize and then rely on some small and nearly minuscule detail.  Then attempt to sustain building a mountain out of nothing more than that lousy anthill.

 

Gotta love that brain damage!

 

Joey

 

 

My mom is the worst at this type of communication. She can never confront you directly about anything. It always has to go thru one of my sisters or my bro. And after Mom has bugged them so much with my faults then they are all pissed at me because she's bothered them so much. Plus if you confront her with anything she just breaks down. I like direct communication. ~bR