Anyone having trouble finding ex-mo love in Salt Lake City?

[citrus]

I am currently having trouble finding love now that I have left the Mormon Church. My grandmother wants me to go back to church so I can find "a nice mormon guy", I say forget it. I would rather be single than pretend to believe in something for the sake of love. I believe there are a lot of good guys out there regardless of their religion!

[silverfox]

I am currently having trouble finding love now that I have left the Mormon Church. My grandmother wants me to go back to church so I can find "a nice mormon guy", I say forget it. I would rather be single than pretend to believe in something for the sake of love. I believe there are a lot of good guys out there regardless of their religion!

Yep, you are right. Hold out till you find someone suitable for YOU. It's difficult, I think for even non members to find love. Not sure why. Is it just Utard or is it like that everywhere? Is it lack of diverse activities or what-does anyone have any ideas?

[lsands]

Tell your grandma, who I'm sure means well, that NOW you can look for someone who really loves you for YOU, and who won't put his religion before you. A woman I know, who had been married 5 times, finally woke up at the age of 45 and asked, If the church is true, why are all of the single men my age such losers?!!!! :eek: And why does being in the church make me feel like shit?!!!
She left and is happier than she's ever been.

I agree with silverfox, that finding love isn't easy for anyone. But at least now you will be looking for someone with the characteristics that are most likely to bring long-lasting love and happiness: compatibility, maturity, kindness, honesty, and similar goals, instead of a returned missionary with a temple recommend. And you can date for as long as you need to to be sure that you're making a good decision, instead of hastily marrying to be sure you don't become "unworthy" to go to the temple! You'll also have a better chance to stay married if you don't start having as many babies as you can without the emotional or financial means to support them.

Good luck; I wish I had been in your position 30 years ago.
Laraine

[citrus]

Tell your grandma, who I'm sure means well, that NOW you can look for someone who really loves you for YOU, and who won't put his religion before you. A woman I know, who had been married 5 times, finally woke up at the age of 45 and asked, If the church is true, why are all of the single men my age such losers?!!!! :eek: And why does being in the church make me feel like shit?!!!
She left and is happier than she's ever been.

I agree with silverfox, that finding love isn't easy for anyone. But at least now you will be looking for someone with the characteristics that are most likely to bring long-lasting love and happiness: compatibility, maturity, kindness, honesty, and similar goals, instead of a returned missionary with a temple recommend. And you can date for as long as you need to to be sure that you're making a good decision, instead of hastily marrying to be sure you don't become "unworthy" to go to the temple! You'll also have a better chance to stay married if you don't start having as many babies as you can without the emotional or financial means to support them.

Good luck; I wish I had been in your position 30 years ago.
Laraine


Thank you so much for your support and advice. I am happier since I stopped going to church, and I know eventually I will find love.

citrus

[pomo]

Thank you so much for your support and advice. I am happier since I stopped going to church, and I know eventually I will find love.

citrus

If I felt I had to live in Utah for whatever reason, when I was young, I think I'd definitely head someplace with a whole lot more going on than SLC, like Park City.
My exmo sisters lived in SLC for years, worked in restaurants and hotels and had quite an active party schedule/social life.
Most of their exmo male friends were gay however, but they're great and still friends of the family after many years of fleeing Utah.
Sisters finally found thier very cool and successfull, never-mo hubby's on the ski slopes outside of Utah. I've spent some time in Park City and it seems pretty cool. If I were younger and living in Utah, I'd definitely hang with a younger, funnier, more outgoing crowd than boring, delusional people who thought of themselves as future Gods and harem members living in the small pond of SLC.

[somedude1]

Yep, you are right. Hold out till you find someone suitable for YOU. It's difficult, I think for even non members to find love. Not sure why. Is it just Utard or is it like that everywhere? Is it lack of diverse activities or what-does anyone have any ideas?

I never been Mormon and I live in Provo (I go to BYU), and I can tell you that there is NOT A CHANCE that I am going to get a date anytime soon... almost everyone won't date someone here unless they are LDS (because they think if they date me im impure, wont go to celestial kingdom, blah blah blah).... kinda sucks...