The Mo mentality twards Exmos

[jamerica]

Recently I've been subjected to attempts by my family to "help me" become "more" active in the church (I haven't attended in three years). Even though I live a half a world away they still manage to apply the pressure by way of sending good old fashioned church approved reading material and telling me I should attend here in Korea :slap: .

My family is well aware of my position towards the church and that I never plan on attending again and so forth. They are not aware of my reasons as I have never told them exactly why I left the church (the history).

But these efforts made me think. Why does my family think that these efforts would even be successfull, given that they know I want nothing to do with the church. Then I remembered back to my mission and the attitude I had toward any ex-mo, post-mo, or slow-mo (inactive) we met. I am amazed that in almost every case, my companion and I always came to the same conclusion. "The inactive member still really believes the church is true but is to lazy or full of hate to admit it." :Puking

Members don't seem to want to admit that a person "fell away" because they saw garbage for what it was and left it behind and that they truly no longer believe in the church. No, it is much easier to say that the inactive individual still believes in the church and that their current status as "inactive" is only temporary and that all that really needs to happen is for that person to "feel the spirit again" :Puking

It is this mentality that I believe to be a motivating factor behind my family's recent attempts to "reconvert me" :Puking
There are other things that are motivating them but this one in particular stuck out for me.

I just wanted to throw this out to see what your opinions are on it and whether you've had similar observations in your Post-Mo experience.

[Born Free]

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Members don't seem to want to admit that a person "fell away" because they saw garbage for what it was and left it behind and that they truly no longer believe in the church. No, it is much easier to say that the inactive individual still believes in the church and that their current status as "inactive" is only temporary and that all that really needs to happen is for that person to "feel the spirit again" :Puking

It is this mentality that I believe to be a motivating factor behind my family's recent attempts to "reconvert me" :Puking
There are other things that are motivating them but this one in particular stuck out for me.

I just wanted to throw this out to see what your opinions are on it and whether you've had similar observations in your Post-Mo experience.
jamerica,

Let me offer another possibility.

To see that Mormonism lacks viability requires either:

A certain (sufficient) level of intelligence, or
Full use of otherwise limited or select use of quite adequate intelligence.

If a person or group is hampered by either of the above, they can genuinely believe that you really know, but are in denial. (It should also be noted that they are actually projecting their own state of denial out onto you - in effect seeing a blindness in you that is existence in themselves.)

I and others have canvassed in numerous other threads here, that Mormonism and Mormons have major problems with boundaries, so they will see no problem with persisting in stuffing their MoMadness down your throat, in spite that you are clearly not only uninterested, but actually highly annoyed. Sadly, they may miss the message until you use a loud-hailer and put it up in neon lights. (marvellous how sensitive to the subtleties the Holy Ghost makes these people :Crazy: )

Daryl

[miss taken]

Steve Benson does a web blog somewhere on the net, (I can't remember the website..darn). He was writing about this exact same thing. Actually, the way he wrote about it, which was quite acidic, was quite funny really.

I don't have this problem really, no family active in the church, and my active friends keep off the subject and seem to accept me the way I am. (I think!!).

A couple of (American) members who I was very close to came over just before my wedding, and tried to put me off going through with it in one way or another. But they had only known me as active, and by that time I had not been going to church regularly for about 4/5 years...

Other than that I have been left alone. I expect that there are lots of others here who can really relate to what you are experiencing...

Mary

Found Steve Benson's blog

http://www.mormoncurtain.com/topic_stevebenson.html