puff
31st October 2006, 04:45 AM
my wife begged me to go to the high priest dinner the other night so i went to keep her happy and actually i was made quite welcome and had some quite intersting discussions .
one person i spoke with , ( SISTER M ) had brought up three teenagers thru the church , two of whom had been on missions , the last a female was about to go on one , this looks like a perfect record of moism working well , all the young adults are well educated , polite and if i may say good looking , but wait theres a problem , at 27, 25 and 24 none of them have found marriage partners , the oldest has not been out with a girlfriend period , thats 27 years of zilch sexuality , so i began wondering why three very atractive people ended up on the shelf and this is what i came up with .
in a normal enviroment , sexuality begins very young , usually with masturbation , but if your not in a normal enviroment and as a young person are being made to feel constant guilt and shame about the fact that you have a few sexual desires going on , then one of two things happens , you may keep on masturbating but live with constant feelings of shame and guilt , ( most likely ) or you may succeed in supressing your sexuality (not very likely ) and become a kind of chloroform doormat, either way , your going to become disfunctional because you have excepted that sexuality is abnormal .
so i was thinking that in this case , and perhaps in many more , parental guidance that holds total fear about the possibility of young adults exsperiencing some form of sexuality outside of marriage , coupled with normal mormon parnoia about sex , ends up with some people living in a kind emotional sexual trauma where they end up alone and unable to function normaly in a healthy sexual relationship ,
on the other end of the scale , a large majority of the young women i know of in this area (mormons ) ended up pregnant with no husbands at about the 15 to 16 mark ,
in these cases ( all in very active families ) sexual repression had exactly the opposite effect of producing total reckless absurdity ,but for young people who honour their covenants , i tend to think that a whole part of normal sexual development will be missing , producing problems that will go on and on , even late into life ,
the scenario of people ending up 30 with no sexual exsperience at all seems quite common to mormon life ...
one person i spoke with , ( SISTER M ) had brought up three teenagers thru the church , two of whom had been on missions , the last a female was about to go on one , this looks like a perfect record of moism working well , all the young adults are well educated , polite and if i may say good looking , but wait theres a problem , at 27, 25 and 24 none of them have found marriage partners , the oldest has not been out with a girlfriend period , thats 27 years of zilch sexuality , so i began wondering why three very atractive people ended up on the shelf and this is what i came up with .
in a normal enviroment , sexuality begins very young , usually with masturbation , but if your not in a normal enviroment and as a young person are being made to feel constant guilt and shame about the fact that you have a few sexual desires going on , then one of two things happens , you may keep on masturbating but live with constant feelings of shame and guilt , ( most likely ) or you may succeed in supressing your sexuality (not very likely ) and become a kind of chloroform doormat, either way , your going to become disfunctional because you have excepted that sexuality is abnormal .
so i was thinking that in this case , and perhaps in many more , parental guidance that holds total fear about the possibility of young adults exsperiencing some form of sexuality outside of marriage , coupled with normal mormon parnoia about sex , ends up with some people living in a kind emotional sexual trauma where they end up alone and unable to function normaly in a healthy sexual relationship ,
on the other end of the scale , a large majority of the young women i know of in this area (mormons ) ended up pregnant with no husbands at about the 15 to 16 mark ,
in these cases ( all in very active families ) sexual repression had exactly the opposite effect of producing total reckless absurdity ,but for young people who honour their covenants , i tend to think that a whole part of normal sexual development will be missing , producing problems that will go on and on , even late into life ,
the scenario of people ending up 30 with no sexual exsperience at all seems quite common to mormon life ...