I Did It

[stuckasamo]

hello everyone,

I just wanted to let you all know that I did it - I withdrew from BYU-I, sent in my letter of resignation to Member Records in SLC, and - the most difficult part - told my TBM dad that I no longer believe in his religion.

He reacted about the way I expected, telling me he was sad and that I might find success - in my own way (read: no matter what I do it won't be good enough for him now that I'm no longer Mormon.) But you know what? I did what was RIGHT, and even though as I speak my dad is walking around the house acting as if I don't exist, I have never been happier in my entire life.

I want to thank everyone on this board who has ultimately encouraged me to follow my heart - you know who you are - and those who have given me such great advice. I am now unstuck, and I know that no matter what difficulties lie ahead as a result of my decision, it was WORTH it. - Summer (damn that feels good!)

[free thinker]

I think you are going to have to change your name now stuck!! Perhaps unstuckasamo. You know. Something like that! :D

I can relate to the feeling of freedom you are experiencing. It is hard to do, but definately worth it. I recently sent my resignation letter also. Looking forward to getting my formal reply.

I am happy for you as I know how you feel. I wish you the best of luck, and will look forward to hearing more from you. Have a great weekend!!


Free Thinker

[silverfox]

hello everyone,

I just wanted to let you all know that I did it - I withdrew from BYU-I, sent in my letter of resignation to Member Records in SLC, and - the most difficult part - told my TBM dad that I no longer believe in his religion.

He reacted about the way I expected, telling me he was sad and that I might find success - in my own way (read: no matter what I do it won't be good enough for him now that I'm no longer Mormon.) But you know what? I did what was RIGHT, and even though as I speak my dad is walking around the house acting as if I don't exist, I have never been happier in my entire life.

I want to thank everyone on this board who has ultimately encouraged me to follow my heart - you know who you are - and those who have given me such great advice. I am now unstuck, and I know that no matter what difficulties lie ahead as a result of my decision, it was WORTH it. - Summer (damn that feels good!)

Wow! That is very courageous. I admire your stength to make such life changing decisions in spite of the unknown and possible consequences.

I am sad that your dad is taking it like he is. I feel for him for being so bound by his beliefs that it affects the relationship with his child. I feel sad for you, too, because there is so much more to each member than just the church. The church does not define us!!! sigh

Best wishes. I hope your dad "recuperates" soon.

[flotsam]

I am now unstuck, and I know that no matter what difficulties lie ahead as a result of my decision, it was WORTH it. - Summer (damn that feels good!)

I must admit, your message in juxtaposition with your signature was quite ironic. You got what you wanted, and then said that sometimes not getting what you want is the best stroke of luck.

Live in paradox, I suppose.

[Born Free]

Formerly stuckasmo,

Congratulations on a gutsy move.

Your Dad is probably in shock by the sounds of it.

Consider saying to him "Hey Dad, I told you that I have concluded the Church is not for me. I am not passing judgement on whether it is right for you, and I want you to know I still love you, and the family as I always have."

Daryl

[dancinfree]

Congratulations!! I admire you for risking and following your truth! Enjoy your journey and know that we are all here for you! You are officially UNstuck!! Way to go!!

[david]

I did it - I withdrew from BYU-I, sent in my letter of resignation to Member Records in SLC, and - the most difficult part - told my TBM dad that I no longer believe in his religion.

He reacted about the way I expected, telling me he was sad and that I might find success - in my own way

Summer,
Based on that simple snapshot of your life at the moment, I am making a prediction:

You will go farther in life than your father could ever even dream of.

Here's why: you don't shy away from a challenge. You tackle problems head on and without hesitation. You are not afraid of the repercussions because truth trumps guilt and peer pressure.

In short, you are a person of INTEGRITY, and clearly you have an amazing future ahead of you.

Thanks for such an inspiring announcement, and best of luck to you--you deserve every good thing that I know is coming your way!!

[elder_nomo]

Congratulations! I admire your courage in standing by your convictions.
Bravo!

[miss taken]

Well done! I agree with David and the other posters.

Do you have any back up plans - other uni's????

Mary

[ifitmakesuhappy]

hello everyone,

I just wanted to let you all know that I did it - I withdrew from BYU-I, sent in my letter of resignation to Member Records in SLC, and - the most difficult part - told my TBM dad that I no longer believe in his religion.

He reacted about the way I expected, telling me he was sad and that I might find success - in my own way (read: no matter what I do it won't be good enough for him now that I'm no longer Mormon.) But you know what? I did what was RIGHT, and even though as I speak my dad is walking around the house acting as if I don't exist, I have never been happier in my entire life.

I want to thank everyone on this board who has ultimately encouraged me to follow my heart - you know who you are - and those who have given me such great advice. I am now unstuck, and I know that no matter what difficulties lie ahead as a result of my decision, it was WORTH it. - Summer (damn that feels good!)


I've followed some of ur posts with interest and sadness for your chanllenges. As soon as I saw your thread title on the new posts lists i had to click on yours first. WELL DONE for doing what u did, that must have been so hard. :) You probably have many more challenges ahead of you because of this decision, but you've made the biggest and probably most difficult decision already so you'll be just fine, and you know you always have support here at postmo. Best wishes to you and your father as he comes to term with the new you.

[stuckasamo]

Hi everyone, thanks for your support! I do have a backup plan as far as school goes - I've been accepted to Idaho State University, so I'm going to enroll next semester and pursue a degree in Zoology. My dad is still not speaking to me, and we are driving all the way to Florida together tomorrow morning, so I'm guessing it will be a LONG three day trip! I love you guys, maybe one day I can put together a post mo meeting in Rexburg and you can all come :) Love, Summer

[verity]

I admire your courage. Boy, it's hard to look at parents and tell them the truth when they respond like that. But you know, TBMs themselves say "by their fruits ye shall know them"--- so as you continue living honestly and courageously, IT'S GOING TO SHOW. You can hold your head up high... and know that the life and spirit you've kept alive in yourself will carry you where you need to go. AND you can know that this aliveness and spirit will SHOW, whether or not people feel they can afford to acknowledge it.

[outsideriq]

Stuckasamo is a stuckmo no mo!

Good for you and way to be courageous! Spread your wings and fly! :)

hello everyone,

I just wanted to let you all know that I did it - I withdrew from BYU-I, sent in my letter of resignation to Member Records in SLC, and - the most difficult part - told my TBM dad that I no longer believe in his religion.

He reacted about the way I expected, telling me he was sad and that I might find success - in my own way (read: no matter what I do it won't be good enough for him now that I'm no longer Mormon.) But you know what? I did what was RIGHT, and even though as I speak my dad is walking around the house acting as if I don't exist, I have never been happier in my entire life.

I want to thank everyone on this board who has ultimately encouraged me to follow my heart - you know who you are - and those who have given me such great advice. I am now unstuck, and I know that no matter what difficulties lie ahead as a result of my decision, it was WORTH it. - Summer (damn that feels good!)

[noodle]

hello everyone,

I just wanted to let you all know that I did it - I withdrew from BYU-I, sent in my letter of resignation to Member Records in SLC, and - the most difficult part - told my TBM dad that I no longer believe in his religion.

He reacted about the way I expected, telling me he was sad and that I might find success - in my own way (read: no matter what I do it won't be good enough for him now that I'm no longer Mormon.) But you know what? I did what was RIGHT, and even though as I speak my dad is walking around the house acting as if I don't exist, I have never been happier in my entire life.

I want to thank everyone on this board who has ultimately encouraged me to follow my heart - you know who you are - and those who have given me such great advice. I am now unstuck, and I know that no matter what difficulties lie ahead as a result of my decision, it was WORTH it. - Summer (damn that feels good!)

Wow...good luck on that Florida trip. Time will heal some of your dad's pain. Good for you for following your heart.

mamajama

[lsands]

Good for you! This took a lot of courage on your part. I envy you because now you have your whole life ahead of you, to discover what you want and don't want, like and don't like. You can explore and learn and grow and do and be whatever you want! I made this step later in my life, and I'm making up for lost time, but its never really possible. I'm happy in my life now, but I do wish I had been in your position.

Enjoy---and show your mom and dad extra love and consideration. They're in pain not because of you or your actions, but because of what the church teaches.

Laraine

[outsideriq]

Hi everyone, thanks for your support! I do have a backup plan as far as school goes - I've been accepted to Idaho State University, so I'm going to enroll next semester and pursue a degree in Zoology. My dad is still not speaking to me, and we are driving all the way to Florida together tomorrow morning, so I'm guessing it will be a LONG three day trip! I love you guys, maybe one day I can put together a post mo meeting in Rexburg and you can all come :) Love, Summer

Hey Summer...you know where to find me. Can't wait to shake your hand this Fall! :D

[peter_mary]

Summer (unstuck),

It's pretty fun to see this finally hit the forum. Your mom let us know how it went with your dad...bummer. By now, you've arrived in Florida, and I'm wondering if things ever warmed up in the car, or if they stayed pretty chilly?

Mostly, as you know, I couldn't be happier for you, and time and your own success will heal the hurt your dad feels.

I still want to see the post office photos...

Peter_Mary