In mormon family

[candy15]

hi, i'm not a post mormon. i'm in a family of mormons. I hope i can still post here. i married a mormon, and his family are of the faith. my children were baptized as well, but they are "inactive." truth be told, they have questioning minds as I do, and cannot bring themselves to believe all that they were told. it is very difficult being in my position, as i feel like many of you feel on this site. so much of what LDS believe seems quite bizarre to me. but i try to keep this to myself as much as possible as it causes trouble in the family. my husband is inactive in a sense, but does have great faith in all the "right" things, in my mind, which has enabled us to continue to enjoy a good relationship. however, there is nowhere for me to exchange my own thoughts on this religion. plus i fear that one day he will embrace the whole thing and become what i feel is "fanatical" about the faith, and then i'm not sure how we will survive. any thoughts on this? thanks.

[nikki]

hi, i'm not a post mormon. i'm in a family of mormons. I hope i can still post here. i married a mormon, and his family are of the faith. my children were baptized as well, but they are "inactive." truth be told, they have questioning minds as I do, and cannot bring themselves to believe all that they were told. it is very difficult being in my position, as i feel like many of you feel on this site. so much of what LDS believe seems quite bizarre to me. but i try to keep this to myself as much as possible as it causes trouble in the family. my husband is inactive in a sense, but does have great faith in all the "right" things, in my mind, which has enabled us to continue to enjoy a good relationship. however, there is nowhere for me to exchange my own thoughts on this religion. plus i fear that one day he will embrace the whole thing and become what i feel is "fanatical" about the faith, and then i'm not sure how we will survive. any thoughts on this? thanks.

Go between this site and an "ex-mormon." org. site. The ex- mor site is very noisy, and gets a little rowdy compared to this site. But there are a couple of people who post who are in similar postion and they can give some suggestions which have helped them.

Keeping your marriage healthy, your children healthy, and the good things.... intact, and him inactive! are what you want.

There are several wise people on this site which may be able to suggest also.

Welcome.

[Jeff_Ricks]

hi, i'm not a post mormon. i'm in a family of mormons. I hope i can still post here. i married a mormon, and his family are of the faith. my children were baptized as well, but they are "inactive." truth be told, they have questioning minds as I do, and cannot bring themselves to believe all that they were told. it is very difficult being in my position, as i feel like many of you feel on this site. so much of what LDS believe seems quite bizarre to me. but i try to keep this to myself as much as possible as it causes trouble in the family. my husband is inactive in a sense, but does have great faith in all the "right" things, in my mind, which has enabled us to continue to enjoy a good relationship. however, there is nowhere for me to exchange my own thoughts on this religion. plus i fear that one day he will embrace the whole thing and become what i feel is "fanatical" about the faith, and then i'm not sure how we will survive. any thoughts on this? thanks.

Cindy, as far as I'm concerned you are very welcome here. Please continue posting.

Jeff

[candy15]

Go between this site and an "ex-mormon." org. site. The ex- mor site is very noisy, and gets a little rowdy compared to this site. But there are a couple of people who post who are in similar postion and they can give some suggestions which have helped them.

Keeping your marriage healthy, your children healthy, and the good things.... intact, and him inactive! are what you want.

There are several wise people on this site which may be able to suggest also.

Welcome.


Thanks very much, Nikki. I really like the info. on this site and want to continue on it but will check what else you suggested!

[silverfox]

hi, i'm not a post mormon. i'm in a family of mormons. I hope i can still post here.

From what I understand EVERYONE IS WELCOME HERE as long as the rules are followed. Non members and members alike are welcome. Even TBMs are welcome as long as the rules are followed.

From what I understand Jeff wants this community to be of and for the people. Although it's called "Post Mormon" doesn't mean it is limited to such.

Candy, you have a lot to offer this forum. We can see life through the eyes of a non member in a sea of members. I am very interested in what you have to offer so I hope to hear more from you.

Not long ago my hubby was like yours, very defensive of the church although inactive. It has just been recently that he has admitted he feels the church isn't true. But it is so engrained in him that he can't find a way to break completely free. Although you are a nonmember you are experiencing so much of what some of us have experienced. We can learn from each other.

I hope you will feel comfortable here. :)

[candy15]

i don't think i'm replying properly to these posts. not sure how it works. but silverfox, i really appreciate your feedback. my husband, however, is still very much a church member, despite the fact that he seldom goes. his beliefs are strong, though, and i feel like i can't voice any negatives i might have about the church or its teachings. it's been an ongoing struggle from day one. i did try for his and his family's sake to see the "light" so to speak. (they are extremely strong members) i had the missionary discussion several times. but in my heart, i knew i could never agree with all of the tenets of the church. it's never going to happen, and i'm fine with that. but his family will never be, and this has and will continue to be painful for me. so, to find all of you out there, and to find a place i can voice my thoughts, is the best thing. i can't tell you.

[candy15]

Cindy, as far as I'm concerned you are very welcome here. Please continue posting.

Jeff

hope this works. i can't seem to get my icons to work. but smiles to you. thanks a lot jeff for the support. i'm not used to this! :) :) :)