Retired my garments!

[mushbelly]

I oficially retired my garments today. I havn't worn them for 3 or 4 months...maybe longer, but they've been taking up valuable drawer space. I boxed them away this morning. It felt so liberating. I know I could go one step further, and burn them....but I'm not quite ready for that yet. Dh hasn't really said much about me not wearing them. He's brought it up a couple of times. I can't explain to him why I don't want to wear them - becuase he's not willing to listen. (And, I know he enjoys the sight of me in sexy bras and underwear much more than ugly g's...even though I am 8 months pregnant)

We have been enjoying our Sundays a lot lately. We go to sacrament together as a family (me, dh and our 2.5 year old daughter) then he stays after for bishopric meeting (he's the ward financial clerk) I drive straight from church to the local coffee shop and get myself an iced mocha. Then when dh gets home we go out to lunch or something. Last week we went out to dinner and to a movie. Sundays are so much more enjoyable now. They are actually a day spent enjoying our time together as a family instead of laying around the house being bored out of our minds. Today on our way to the park he stopped at the coffee shop for me so I could get an iced mocha. So- he's loosening up on a lot of things, but fundamentally, he still believes. Oh well. I can live like this for a while. At least he's not trying to get me to go to the temple, attend all my church meetings, read my scriptures, have family home evening, etc. A few weeks ago I asked him why he's not intersting in having discussions about why I am having doubts about the church. His response was "because it only leads to an argument. Our marriage is more important to me than religion, so it's not worth fighting over" That made me feel good...although I'm not sure how much he meant it. I think the truth is he's just hoping it will go away...he's hoping this is just a phase I'm going through.

Anyway - I really only meant to post about the garment thing, but you pretty much got a full update.

Mushbelly

[Born Free]

I oficially retired my garments today. I havn't worn them for 3 or 4 months...maybe longer, but they've been taking up valuable drawer space. I boxed them away this morning. It felt so liberating. I know I could go one step further, and burn them....but I'm not quite ready for that yet.

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Anyway - I really only meant to post about the garment thing, but you pretty much got a full update.

Mushbelly
Mushbelly,

Congratulations! Have you got any friends that can help you create an 'unendowment ritual'. :cool:

Have you had any periods of angst since taking them off, or is that now all behind you?

Daryl

[why me]

I oficially retired my garments today. I havn't worn them for 3 or 4 months...maybe longer, but they've been taking up valuable drawer space. I boxed them away this morning. It felt so liberating. I know I could go one step further, and burn them....but I'm not quite ready for that yet. Dh hasn't really said much about me not wearing them. He's brought it up a couple of times. I can't explain to him why I don't want to wear them - becuase he's not willing to listen. (And, I know he enjoys the sight of me in sexy bras and underwear much more than ugly g's...even though I am 8 months pregnant)

We have been enjoying our Sundays a lot lately. We go to sacrament together as a family (me, dh and our 2.5 year old daughter) then he stays after for bishopric meeting (he's the ward financial clerk) I drive straight from church to the local coffee shop and get myself an iced mocha. Then when dh gets home we go out to lunch or something. Last week we went out to dinner and to a movie. Sundays are so much more enjoyable now. They are actually a day spent enjoying our time together as a family instead of laying around the house being bored out of our minds. Today on our way to the park he stopped at the coffee shop for me so I could get an iced mocha. So- he's loosening up on a lot of things, but fundamentally, he still believes. Oh well. I can live like this for a while. At least he's not trying to get me to go to the temple, attend all my church meetings, read my scriptures, have family home evening, etc. A few weeks ago I asked him why he's not intersting in having discussions about why I am having doubts about the church. His response was "because it only leads to an argument. Our marriage is more important to me than religion, so it's not worth fighting over" That made me feel good...although I'm not sure how much he meant it. I think the truth is he's just hoping it will go away...he's hoping this is just a phase I'm going through.

Anyway - I really only meant to post about the garment thing, but you pretty much got a full update.

Mushbelly


I haven't worn garments officially in years. I say officially because I still can wear the undershirt as part of my undershirt collection. But I also go without that too. It all depends on what's clean. I can't remember when I stopped wearing them. I haven't tried the coffee thing yet. I never really liked coffee. You could have a problem with your husband in the future. Somewhere there is a thread or a post about mutual respect in marriage between two people one who believes and the other who lost their belief. I think that it is important the postmo's do not become active postmo missionaries in the home. Mutual respect needs to be observed on both sides. Hopefully your hubby will respect your way of life. You seem like a good and sensitive person with a good heart. I am usually a good judge of character. Don't strain yourself too much...take care of yourself and the unborn baby....

[silverfox]

I oficially retired my garments today. I havn't worn them for 3 or 4 months...maybe longer, but they've been taking up valuable drawer space. I boxed them away this morning. It felt so liberating. I know I could go one step further, and burn them....but I'm not quite ready for that yet. Dh hasn't really said much about me not wearing them. He's brought it up a couple of times. I can't explain to him why I don't want to wear them - becuase he's not willing to listen. (And, I know he enjoys the sight of me in sexy bras and underwear much more than ugly g's...even though I am 8 months pregnant)

We have been enjoying our Sundays a lot lately. We go to sacrament together as a family (me, dh and our 2.5 year old daughter) then he stays after for bishopric meeting (he's the ward financial clerk) I drive straight from church to the local coffee shop and get myself an iced mocha. Then when dh gets home we go out to lunch or something. Last week we went out to dinner and to a movie. Sundays are so much more enjoyable now. They are actually a day spent enjoying our time together as a family instead of laying around the house being bored out of our minds. Today on our way to the park he stopped at the coffee shop for me so I could get an iced mocha. So- he's loosening up on a lot of things, but fundamentally, he still believes. Oh well. I can live like this for a while. At least he's not trying to get me to go to the temple, attend all my church meetings, read my scriptures, have family home evening, etc. A few weeks ago I asked him why he's not intersting in having discussions about why I am having doubts about the church. His response was "because it only leads to an argument. Our marriage is more important to me than religion, so it's not worth fighting over" That made me feel good...although I'm not sure how much he meant it. I think the truth is he's just hoping it will go away...he's hoping this is just a phase I'm going through.

Anyway - I really only meant to post about the garment thing, but you pretty much got a full update.

Mushbelly

Ahhhhh the bliss of enjoying a garment free lifestyle! Your Sundays sound so pleasant. I LOVE Sundays now. It is one of my favorite days. They are so relaxing and spent with my family and friends.

[taruleo]

Ahhhhh the bliss of enjoying a garment free lifestyle! Your Sundays sound so pleasant. I LOVE Sundays now. It is one of my favorite days. They are so relaxing and spent with my family and friends.

And there is so little traffic!

[free thinker]

Congrats on your freedom from your masonic undies!!

Sundays for me now are so much better. I got so very tired of three to six hours of church on sundays. I see a lot of people at the coffee shops doing after church gathering. They seem very happy to me. It is a wonderful feeling to know that as christ said " man was not made for the sabbath, but the sabbath was made for man" !!!

Free Thinker

[peter_mary]

Here's a tip for those recent Post-Mormons who are living in Mo-land (not applicable to those living outside in the ACTUAL world): Do your Christmas shopping on Sunday. This was the first year I really took advantage of that, and even though the Mall and many other stores have shorter Sunday hours...wow, was it easier!

Non-membership has its privleges... :D

Peter_Mary