Moving on

[Cindy]

I am excited to see this website and look forward to the support.It would be nice to find friends who live in our area who are going through this transition also. Non-members don't understand our lose and our mormon friends see us as an anomoly.
Anyway...what are some specific ways that others have filled the void from leaving the church? I feel agnostic but want to build a strong family and help my children have good values.

[Jeff]

Cindy,

I found that the void gradually diminished for me to where now is seems what was a void is overflowing. I enjoy life so much more now that I'm out of the Church and my three children also seem to be moving forward with their lives better now that they are not encumbered by the myth of Mormonism. I'm not a Bible believer but I like the statement, "the truth will make you free"!

For how long ago was it that you made the decision to leave the Church? It's been ten years for me. The first two years were a bit disorienting and the following 6 years pretty lonely but from the time I discovered the former Mormon community I have gained so many friends I can't keep track of all the names. It feels great!

How did you find the website? We're in a ramping up stage until the end of the year so there hasn’t been a lot of focus yet on getting the word out as widely as it might, so I’m curious how you found us.

Jeff

[Cindy]

I think I found this site from a link on the Rethinking Mormonism site...to be honest I was so excited to find it, I forgot. I'm counting on you guys!

[Cindy]

We have not yet removed our names from the records of the church. We have placed ourselves on the "Do Not Call" list, have not attended meetings for several months, and are contemplating how to break the news to family and friends. So...we are just starting the process and the transition is still difficult. I keep hoping to find some friends who understand. I'm hoping that your community will include some like-minded individuals from san Diego

[Jeff]

While this website is ramping up you might want to visit the exmormon.org bulletin board at:
http://www.exmormon.org/boards/w-agora/index.php?site=exmobb&bn=exmobb_recovery
It's a very active one where you will find plenty of online support. You might also want to try:

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Exmormon/

As this community grows I also hope that it includes a group in San Diego. This weekend I should have a list of the current support groups in the US and possibly some oversees ones such as Sweden, Scotland, Canada where some have expressed an interest in getting groups started.

[Andrea]

I am also searching for that "something" that will help fill the void after leaving the church. I have children of my own and am afraid for them. They have been away from a church for quite sometime. I want them to establish faith in God and also have the fellowship of a church.
I live on the east coast and don't know any ex-mormons in my area. I would love to find friends that are going through the same thoughts and feeling that I am.
Look forward to getting to know you!

[nancyp]

Cindy,

My name is still on the records. Only for my husband's sake. When I physically left the church 15 years ago, people told him that he had failed, here was an exbishop that couldn't hold his family together. No one ever came to see me or asked me what was going on. WE've talked about membership a number of times and this is one thing he would appreciate my not doing. He has been so supportive that I have decided it is ok for now. I've questioned his feelings if I were to be called to a court (or whatever it is now) AFter all I am a very active UU, been president of my congregation, given workshops on church growth, taken graduate classes in theology. I do consulting and writing about UU growth.

My two adult children are still members. My daughter just ignores them. They keep trying to track my son down - he is a wanderer. I've told them both what they need to do to have their names removed. I have also told them I would not reveal their whereabouts to anyone - And yes, SLC calls about my son.

Nancy


We have not yet removed our names from the records of the church. We have placed ourselves on the "Do Not Call" list, have not attended meetings for several months, and are contemplating how to break the news to family and friends. So...we are just starting the process and the transition is still difficult. I keep hoping to find some friends who understand. I'm hoping that your community will include some like-minded individuals from san Diego

[nancyp]

Any where close to you?

I am also searching for that "something" that will help fill the void after leaving the church. I have children of my own and am afraid for them. They have been away from a church for quite sometime. I want them to establish faith in God and also have the fellowship of a church.
I live on the east coast and don't know any ex-mormons in my area. I would love to find friends that are going through the same thoughts and feeling that I am.
Look forward to getting to know you!

[wannabexmo]

I have a brother who is living in SD. We recently together discovered the truth and would like to meet others who have left the church. If you are interested in talking more privately I would like to talk to you via email. I just moved from SD to Florida but visit quite often. I am a mother of 3 children myself and it sounds like we may have a lot in common. my email is: niecedenise@comcast.net